Dustystar: Sorry If I keep venting so much but what I did realize is that I am crazy resilient to have been able to put up with all of the loneliness and tearful goodbyes whenever he had to leave me to go home. As u said life has many shades. But i cant stop thinking about him. When I was about to pick up the pieces of myself he confessed that he still love me, and will always love me. Please help me, I really need some advice.
Perhaps and that could be sad. We already have talked about not getting married or being together long term how I feel and he understands, so making this relationship friendly sorta makes sense right? This is a very big lesson learnt. He complained about his wife but he was still sleeping with her. In other words, this girl saw her value and that she deserved more than mere flattery in exchange for a few sexual favours. Not someone who is selfish and caring about fullfilling their sexual needs.
I do take responsibility for my actions and I am trying to make my relationship work. This together with the domestic abuse was a real low. If he was like anyone I broke up with before, including my ex-husband, it was really not hard. The mistress should treat every date like one of the first dates. I know, but I cannot, and I cannot explain any of it. Dying inside: I 100% empathize and feel so so badly for you. He never speaks about his familiy, I never ask.
He helps me pick out my clothes. He also looks at images of women on his phone starting at 6:45 am. He has also said that if his wife finds out, he cannot be with me any longer. Now i tried hard to end everything, i love him deepyly but i know i don deserve this kinda relationship. Afterwards its very important to look at why it was ok for to settle into a relationship where you are putting yourself in a very painful, uncomfortable position. Where is the original view point? It was killing me and breaking my heart.
I was only holding it together for the sake of our child. He has made it clear that he wants to stay married. You just cannot sustain a fantasy forever despite your best efforts. But you have his keys, credit card numbers, passwords, and his secrets. The two of you are not in a relationship, and this is something that will probably never change.
If you try to give him space to work on his marriage he may become concerned about your long-term loyalty. He came to my job to see me hours before he and his wife entered the hospital. Many men go to great lengths to hide the fact that they are married. We have our separate house very close to each other. If the guy is spending large amounts of time and money on a mistress, that is time and money that is being diverted from solving the problems at home. He is actually a nice guy less the fact that he is married but I still love him so much and I always cry alot everytime.
But for now, Id realy want to do it openly. We had been great friends and co-workers for over a year prior to the affair. Every Dom is different, goes with their personalities, as we all are. His guilt, if any, will be short-lived for wasting your time should you happen to find him out. Although, I believe when he said he never have met someone like me before. Missing him already and I know every part of my body will hurt until next time we meet again. So what do you do if you are or are thinking about being the other woman? This was so toxic but I was so committed that I could not leave.
I wnt him to tke to me and tell me. Straight off the bat I told him that it was not my problem and to resolve his issues first before being involved. Every relationship are case to case bases, at the end of the day we will only live once single or not, married or not, mistress or not, all of us are deserving of happiness. Only one problem, his wife was unaware of his plans. I mean, what woman likes to have subversive love? Not sure how to stop the pain of this jealousy. Everything mentioned above is absolutely correct.