Neither of us knew we liked each other at the time. Look at the two guys and see who has similar views on children, where you live, education and career. The thing is, I care about my bf. This is what makes it both attractive and scary. In my own way, I was torn between two women.
At some point I realized what am I doing and did not know how to go out of the situation. Yes, if you overlook something very obvious, which is that dating even one person is really, really difficult. Is there one guy that you just cannot imagine living without? I was devastated and heart broken and at this time guy number one started dating someone so I went after guy number two and attempted the long distance relationship hoping one day I could move down there to be with him but the distance proved how hard it was. I did have a few weeks of heartwrenching back-and-forth between them, but it did nothing to clear my head. I truly believed this was going to happen. Becoming roommates doomed our relationship.
He would do anything for me hes gorgeous and funny and had made me happy for 2 years. Look at why you and Paul were going through a rough patch in the first place and ask yourself, do I want to go through that again? By staying ambivalent and by thinking about the charms of these two men as different but equal, you forestall making any decision. Kate is not alone in her dilemma. If anyone has any ideas can they let me know please. I have to decide between two women. Then we resort to texting im ashamed for admitting this I could easily start to get to know anyone at this point.
He needs her — and wants her — so much that she feels guilty. I told her which choice made sense to me — based on what she was saying — but I told her whether she agreed or not, she had to make a choice. Through the whole day, we never told each other how much we liked each other but it was still one of the best experiences of my life. It's a fight between my head and my heart. This new guy is very caring and wants marriag and kids, we have very similar expectations in life.
Love is confussing and sometimes we confuse love with kindness, your heart dictates what will make you happy and your mind what will make you be…just fine. Thank God nobody here will ever know who I am, because it would kill me for people to know the truth. It was coming form both of us tho — that is how we formed our relationship. So here I am still loving my soulmate. Guy X and I have a history he was the one i saw myself marrying and starting a family with. Some people even the ones close to you sometimes fail to understand that some of us learn to difericiate love a kindness. Check out some of Kara's work at.
We thought we could fight the distance and once i have a steady job, we could make preparations for her to come to me permanently and live happily ever after…. He says he loves me but never shows it. But ultimately it is your decision. Maybe you should go with your boyfriend before, if he didn't break up with you. From age 19 to age 26, when I married, I always sat on the fence when caught between two men and waited for one to make the decision for me and drop out. He is not the exciting type of guy. While it may always be impossible to choose, the following steps can help you to make the right choice.
If it doesn't work out, the new guy or someone else will still be there in the future. One lives an hour away and the other is super close to me. A female reader, anonymous, writes 5 September 2010 : i was almost in the same situation. A lot of interference from in-laws in the early years killed what we had. Our family worked well though happy healthy kids. Unknowingly I still held on to control, not realising the apalling emotional figure it was making me.
Kids are taking his side now too. Thanks in advance to all of you. I am not even exaggerating on how much he loves and would do for me. You can make decisions today that will help you to create the future that you want. Other deal breakers might be no common interests, an inability to compromise or a quick temper.